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“Listen.  Just listen.  You don’t have to agree.  Just see if you can understand that there’s another person who has a completely different experience of the same reality.”  Esther Perel


Poor communication between partners is one of the most common themes in relationship therapy.  Events and conversations in the past and present can be remembered and understood in completely different ways by two people in the same relationship.  In my experience so often couples can get stuck in a cycle of miscommunication, pain and blame.  A therapist’s intervention can help break this pattern.


In addition to poor communication, other issues can cause unhappiness and conflict in a relationship:

  • anxiety

  • uncertainty about commitment

  • re-occuring resentments and frustrations

  • unfaithfulness and affairs

  • starting a family

  • raising a family

  • sexual difficulties

  • bereavement

If any of these resonate with you, you may wish to think about relationship therapy. 


As a relationship therapist I can help you:

  • Identify and change unhelpful patterns of relating between you and your partner

  • Develop better communication resulting in healthier relating

  • Work together as a couple towards a deeper understanding of each other

  • Move away from blame and conflict and towards a place of resolution

  • Understand power and vulnerability in your relationship so that pain and resentments can be healed

  • Ultimately, work towards a better and healthier way of being together


For some couples, therapy is the start of a longer process of understanding while for others a few sessions of counselling may be all that is needed to get you through a rough patch.


Relationship therapy is not a ‘magic’ solution - it requires commitment, engagement and hard work from all parties. It is my privilege to support you and your partner as you go through the therapeutic process which can often lead to a real improvement in the relationship.  Sometimes however the course of improvement can be unexpected; a couple may agree that the right thing for them is to find different paths and to separate. If this is the case, I can help you as a couple to navigate what can be a very hard process as painlessly as is possible.

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